'My guy has been distancing himself from me...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I've been seeing this guy for a while now, but lately he has been avoiding me. We have been together for two years. He has never behaved like this earlier. I do not know what is the reason, but he appears to be tense about something. When I ask him what is wrong, he tells me to not get on his nerves, as he has a lot on his mind already. There is something that is bothering him, but he does not want to share it with me. I want to be there for him. A fortnight ago, he suddenly told me that he feels it is better that we part ways. Is there someone else on his scene? I am heartbroken that he has dumped me. What should I do? He is in no mood to talk to me. Why can't he tell me clearly what is troubling him? He is now shutting me out from his life. The more I try to contact him, the more he avoids me. I am in a mess.
- Harini


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Dear Harini,
It appears that there is too much going on in your guy's mind. He has his own reasons for not telling you clearly what the problem is. Maybe he needs space and that's why he wants to go his way. You are irritating him by repeatedly asking him what the matter is. It is better you leave him alone for the moment. You also need to spend some time apart and think about what's going on. Take stock of the situation and where your relationship is headed. The longer this goes on, the harder it will be for you. There could be a chance that he is behaving odd as he has found someone else. This could be the reason why he was evasive all this while. In such a situation there is no point for you to stick around. Do not plead with him to stay with you, as in the long run you are the one who will suffer the most.