'I can't get him out of my head...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I am a single mom and have a eight-year-old son who doesn't live with me at the moment. My husband and I live separately due to our differences. We are not yet officially divorced. At my place, he is with the maid when I am at work. So he mostly stays at my husband's place who stays in a joint family. He has cousins of his age to play with too. This arrangement suits us fine. I spend time with him on weekends when he comes over to my place. At an office conference recently, I met this guy and there was instant attraction. We exchanged numbers and started chatting and talking via email and text. There is not much I know about him, but I can't get him out of my head. I wait for his messages and calls. He knows how to woo a woman. He is caring and nice. Every thing I wanted in my guy I find in him. Am I having an affair? I think he is interested in me too.
- Deesha


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Deesha,
A chance encounter at an office conference had you fall hook line and sinker for this guy. First, you need to know his marital status. It is strange that he has not revealed details about himself to you. From the looks of it you have fallen prey to his charm. While trying to ascertain what he means to you, also find out how serious he is about you. Also, remember you are still married as you have not sought a divorce. Before you tread any further in this new relationship, you have to decide about your marital status. If you think he is the man you desired, then seek a divorce first. Your son is already staying with your husband's family and is comfortable, so it will not cause a major upheaval in his life. Sit down and ponder what course you want your life to take now.